Sunday, July 4, 2010

What should be done;-


We’ve all been there. Breaking up with someone you love is one of the most painful situations you ever have to face. In the aftermath of rejection, the hurt, the misery, the loneliness and the feeling that the future just disappeared, look as though they’ll go on forever..

All i can say is breaking up is never fun. The end of a relationship means the beginning of a period of mourning and healing for both person.If the break up was mutual both people will experience a period of adjustment where they are getting used to no longer being togather.If the break up was not mutual the person who ended things may be dealing with guilt and feelings that they may have made a mistake. The person being broken up with will definitely have to adjust, first to being rejected and second to life without somebody they still care for. How do you get through those first few weeks?

Oh well you can always avoid former love, why? seeing your former love can bring out emotions and may cause you do to or say something you will regret; the best thing you can do for yourself is not be where you know they will be.Talk out your feelings with close friends. Get everything out so that you won’t hold it inside. Your friends may get sick of hearing you talk about the situation but you need to let out all your feelings and thoughts or they may come back to bite you later, i know how it felt its dark and crappy, i felt like shattttt the whole year YEAH 1 YEAR.

Cry if you want to. It’s OK to cry over a loss. Don’t hold back, let the tears roll just do it in a safe and private place where it is unlikely to get back to your ex. You don’t want your tears to be used as a guilt trip. Their purpose is to cleanse you of any pain not make your lover come back. And yeah, i am a guy and they have feelings too so FUCK OFF if you judge.Let me tell you why, cause W\women are open with their emotions and their crying; it helps them heal much faster! You go ask a guy and cry with a group of guys.Spelled as GAY.:( Let go of mementos. Put away or give away anything and everything that reminds you of the relationship. Hide them out of sight so they will be out of mind until you are able to remember the relationship without longing for it to still be going strong. Don’t slip up and get together with your ex. When you are feeling sad or missing a relationship it can be very easy to fall back in to the arms of your ex but DO NOT DO THIS. This will only set you back and let’s face it, if things ended the relationship wasn’t perfect to begin with so why would you want to rekindle things???!!!

Think about the mean, cruel or rude things your ex may have done in your relationship. Really give these things play in your memory. Remind yourself that somebody who truly cared for you would not have done such thoughtless things and tell yourself (over and over) that you are better off without that kind of ego crushing behavior in your life. This is what i did ; i cared yet i wrecked it with my own hands :'( Mending a broken heart is not easy but it can be done, enjoy life with friends and family. Meet new people from all walks of life, experience new surrounding and stuff. But not the bad stuff in life like alcohol or drugs, sure it could help you for a short while but what happens next is side-effects:S. Like this quotes says "When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us" I never did looked at other doors, because i closed that door myself:'(

Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending :)

2 comments:

  1. What else can I say that isn't already there? All I will tell is that I've been in that situation before but believe me,felix, a relationship with second chances do work. But once you've gone through a second chance and it doesn't... there is simply no point to rekindle any longer. :)

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