The language of LOVE;

Have you ever received a gift from your beau only to be disappointed with it? Or have you heard your beau complain about how he/she wishes you will spend more time with him/her? Or say "I love you" more? And foremost love ; cinta OR 爱 is a strong word ~

Sounds like being in love is not as rosy as what you imagined it to be, is it? I'm sure you've heard it before; falliing in love is easy, but staying in love is not. How true. When you first started out as a couple, all you want to do is spend 24 hours a day togather, in mycase it isn't.Mine was like an angry mother talking to her child,"where are you?" "what are you doing?" "okay lah, you go lah~sarcastically". And remember how that heart of yours would always skip a beat whenever your beau walks into the room? Feelings of passion can make us float on cloud nine, and even substitute for air and food! :)

But three months down the road(for some even shorter;puppylove.pui~ mycase again mere 2weeks), are you finding yourself increasingly irritated with your beau because he wants to spend his afternoon playing counterstrike or dota with his friends yet again? Are you losing your patience waiting for her while she tries out a truckload of clothes in the fitting room? Surely i don't get annoyed with her trying to look her best and all so pretty. It's just the way some guys think about.

Then that's when you start wondering; are you still in love?

Well, from past experiences and whom i witnessed some; well not some but quite alot. Men and women give and receive love in their own different ways. Even the littleist of things you do; means a heck lot to them.

Time is definitely of the essence. Very often, couples fail to find or make time to talk to each other. Time spent togather does not mean being in the same room physically. It means talking and sharing with each other, or doing something that is enjoyable to both. Watching tv is often misunderstood as one suck activity. It drives couple further apart as no conversation takes place. What you say or do, and how much of yourself you put into the activity you do togather. If you hardly have a few days in a week to spend with each other, make sure that on the days you get to, SPEND THEM WISELY AND MEANINGFULLY...

Everyone loves to hear words that encourage him/her or something that makes him/her feel loved and cherished. We often overlook the need to say such words because we tend to focus too much on our need to receive them. I tried to say it as often as possible but in the end; what goes into the ear came out at the other.

Personal words that touch our souls have extraordinary power to lift our spirits or leave them in the dumps. Hurtful words function like a sword, with the capacity to penetrate, cut and wound deeply. So be extra careful with your choice of words and tone of voice because to someone who loves you, a careless word may be all that's needed to tear him or her into pieces.

On the other hand, you may find that your beau is someone who is always asking you if you love or miss him/her. While there may be many factors contributing to that, i would say the primary reason is that his/her love language is words of affirmation.

Your beau may even consider hearing how much you appreciate him/her more than the love itself.You can buy the most beautiful clothes for her or the latest headset for him, but it won;t even measure up to a simple "you are the apple of my eye".;

We instinctively put our arms around a friend who is upset or needs support. That is because you know that they can sense the love that is translated through a hug or a pat on the shoulder. However, it is important for us to understand our beau's preference when it comes to touch ; just like all the other love languages.

Some kinds of touching are wonderful; others irritating. If your beau comes from a family wher no one ever touches, hugs or kisses, then the likelihood of his/her primary love language being touch is not going to be high. :S

I must add that this touch that i am talkin about is not about sensual touch. I am talking about touching which communicates meaningful love (not lust~ i got great touches^^.). Many guys think that to let their girlfriends feel loved, they have to kiss them passionately when sometimes, all they want is for their boyfriends to hold their hands. Find out from your beau when is the right time to touch, and in what way,,,,.

Most couples eagerly serve each other when they first start dating. In fact, the time when acts of services are most obvious in a couple is before they become attached. They are always lookin for ways to impress, help, surprise and just basically be around the other party during that time. Call them at anytime of the day and they will be there for you. Ask for any favour and consider it done. nothing is impossible and too troublesome.

So why is there a change after the relationship settles down and sparks of passion dim? i believe no matter how long a couple has been togather, this love language is one sure way to let your beau know not just with words of your love. He may not be one who sends you flowers every week or writes the most beeautiful poem for you(i draw pretty well thou^^) You'll find that most couples will also serve each other lavishly onspecial occasions such as valentine's day(fallin on CNY1stday.pre.order your roses dudes and yeah its 5months ago haha) and xmas day. That's still bbetter than nothing, i suppose. But serve your beau with love, and you'll be surprised...

Thou gifts need not be expensive or branded."FUCK LV PETIT NOE" They can be handmade or just simple things that tell the other person that you are thinkin of him/her. It could be a seashell; write something like" you thought of him/her when they're physically apart; wishing either of them are there . This still means a lot to anyone.

Now you need to ask yourself what your language of love is; how you wish to receive or give love. Strike a balance in the way you express your love. or SEXoops hahahaa i do love sex. END-