I MISS HUGGING ~ WUMAN xo

"Hello! Long time no see *hugs*"

"Bye see you soon! *hugs*"

*Sees someone in a club but the music is so loud so all you can do is wave, smile and give a hug*

Many many personal messages on MSN saying "Need a hug now" , or "would really appreciate a hug", or something along that line.

dafy's spastic "Huu-huuu-huuug". <--- taken Gee Gee Hugging bolster/pillow to sleep. Okay I meant this one as a joke haha. but still a hug right-.-" <-- misssally's greenish baubau1:) But then again, this hugging thing has been pretty normal, at least to my social circle. It's probably something that comes together with a Hello or Goodbye. Something people do just as a courtesy or because its the norm nowadays. But for me, I believe hugs serve a better purpose. Something deeper. Like how swimming pools appear shallower than they are due to refraction, but when you add in all the calculations (light bending/ angle of refraction etc) you'll know its true depth. Just by hugs alone, we can interpret many things. Whenever I give or get a hug, I sort of get a hidden message. <---- eiseh~~ HAHA~~ If someone gives you a long, tight hug it feels as if he or she says "Hey it's so good to see you, really glad to see you!" But if it's like just some brief, half-hearted one then it explains "Yea okay whatever". So yea, I cherish hugs! It makes life feel like there's more love and compassion in it. People always say I give great hugs. Now you probably know why, cause there are feelings and a certain warmth and cosiness that comes along with it =). And my army of emoticon will hug me ٩(•̮̮̃•̃)۶ ٩(-̮̮̃-̃)۶ ٩(●̮̮̃•̃)۶ ٩(-̮̮̃•̃)۶ ε(●̮̮̃•̃)з ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶٩(●̮̮̃•̃)۶ ٩͡[๏̯͡๏]۶ ٩(̮̮̃•̃)۶ HAHA <3>

ps/ anyone wanna hug me?

when life gives you lemon;

"when life hands you lemons, make lemonade" it means that when life gives u a chance, then u should take it make something usefull from that chance, which has been given to you and to a certain extent it's almost the same as "every cloud has a silver lining".

the lemonade part would be; It’s best served chilled; so too, are we at our best when we learn to get out of the way and “chill out.” It’s a drink that leaves you wanting more; so we should also want to do more for others in their lives and help them make their own refreshing “ life lemonade.”

It’s not easy to get the “sour” out of our lives and look at the sweeter side of things. We tend to hold grudges, fold our arms and pout with our lower lip stuck out for the whole world to see. I include myself in this description as well. And yet, slowly but surely, God is helping to squeeze those lemons into my pitcher of life, and together with Him, my family and friends, I am able to concoct a beverage of happiness and joy that I can share with others:).

And I am truly thankful for that.

Lemons abound everywhere in our lives…so let’s go make some lemonade missSALLY:) xo

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The language of LOVE;

Have you ever received a gift from your beau only to be disappointed with it? Or have you heard your beau complain about how he/she wishes you will spend more time with him/her? Or say "I love you" more? And foremost love ; cinta OR 爱 is a strong word ~

Sounds like being in love is not as rosy as what you imagined it to be, is it? I'm sure you've heard it before; falliing in love is easy, but staying in love is not. How true. When you first started out as a couple, all you want to do is spend 24 hours a day togather, in mycase it isn't.Mine was like an angry mother talking to her child,"where are you?" "what are you doing?" "okay lah, you go lah~sarcastically". And remember how that heart of yours would always skip a beat whenever your beau walks into the room? Feelings of passion can make us float on cloud nine, and even substitute for air and food! :)

But three months down the road(for some even shorter;puppylove.pui~ mycase again mere 2weeks), are you finding yourself increasingly irritated with your beau because he wants to spend his afternoon playing counterstrike or dota with his friends yet again? Are you losing your patience waiting for her while she tries out a truckload of clothes in the fitting room? Surely i don't get annoyed with her trying to look her best and all so pretty. It's just the way some guys think about.

Then that's when you start wondering; are you still in love?

Well, from past experiences and whom i witnessed some; well not some but quite alot. Men and women give and receive love in their own different ways. Even the littleist of things you do; means a heck lot to them.

Time is definitely of the essence. Very often, couples fail to find or make time to talk to each other. Time spent togather does not mean being in the same room physically. It means talking and sharing with each other, or doing something that is enjoyable to both. Watching tv is often misunderstood as one suck activity. It drives couple further apart as no conversation takes place. What you say or do, and how much of yourself you put into the activity you do togather. If you hardly have a few days in a week to spend with each other, make sure that on the days you get to, SPEND THEM WISELY AND MEANINGFULLY...

Everyone loves to hear words that encourage him/her or something that makes him/her feel loved and cherished. We often overlook the need to say such words because we tend to focus too much on our need to receive them. I tried to say it as often as possible but in the end; what goes into the ear came out at the other.

Personal words that touch our souls have extraordinary power to lift our spirits or leave them in the dumps. Hurtful words function like a sword, with the capacity to penetrate, cut and wound deeply. So be extra careful with your choice of words and tone of voice because to someone who loves you, a careless word may be all that's needed to tear him or her into pieces.

On the other hand, you may find that your beau is someone who is always asking you if you love or miss him/her. While there may be many factors contributing to that, i would say the primary reason is that his/her love language is words of affirmation.

Your beau may even consider hearing how much you appreciate him/her more than the love itself.You can buy the most beautiful clothes for her or the latest headset for him, but it won;t even measure up to a simple "you are the apple of my eye".;

We instinctively put our arms around a friend who is upset or needs support. That is because you know that they can sense the love that is translated through a hug or a pat on the shoulder. However, it is important for us to understand our beau's preference when it comes to touch ; just like all the other love languages.

Some kinds of touching are wonderful; others irritating. If your beau comes from a family wher no one ever touches, hugs or kisses, then the likelihood of his/her primary love language being touch is not going to be high. :S

I must add that this touch that i am talkin about is not about sensual touch. I am talking about touching which communicates meaningful love (not lust~ i got great touches^^.). Many guys think that to let their girlfriends feel loved, they have to kiss them passionately when sometimes, all they want is for their boyfriends to hold their hands. Find out from your beau when is the right time to touch, and in what way,,,,.

Most couples eagerly serve each other when they first start dating. In fact, the time when acts of services are most obvious in a couple is before they become attached. They are always lookin for ways to impress, help, surprise and just basically be around the other party during that time. Call them at anytime of the day and they will be there for you. Ask for any favour and consider it done. nothing is impossible and too troublesome.

So why is there a change after the relationship settles down and sparks of passion dim? i believe no matter how long a couple has been togather, this love language is one sure way to let your beau know not just with words of your love. He may not be one who sends you flowers every week or writes the most beeautiful poem for you(i draw pretty well thou^^) You'll find that most couples will also serve each other lavishly onspecial occasions such as valentine's day(fallin on CNY1stday.pre.order your roses dudes and yeah its 5months ago haha) and xmas day. That's still bbetter than nothing, i suppose. But serve your beau with love, and you'll be surprised...

Thou gifts need not be expensive or branded."FUCK LV PETIT NOE" They can be handmade or just simple things that tell the other person that you are thinkin of him/her. It could be a seashell; write something like" you thought of him/her when they're physically apart; wishing either of them are there . This still means a lot to anyone.

Now you need to ask yourself what your language of love is; how you wish to receive or give love. Strike a balance in the way you express your love. or SEXoops hahahaa i do love sex. END-

Letting Love Go;

Letting go of someone you love is one of the hardest things you can do, but it’s also very necessary. If you don’t let go, you may end up smothering them and they will want to stay away from you. If someone was always worried about you and always judging every little thing you do, and panicking over seemingly tiny things… would you want to spend more time with them or less? This counts for every kind of relationship, but seems to be a common problem among parents for some reason. I believe they call it “overprotective”.

It really comes down to fear and trust. Just like you are more likely to know what’s best for you than even your closest friend, it goes both ways. Just because the person is doing something that looks like a really bad idea to you, doesn’t mean they’re making a huge mistake. It may actually be right for them. And even if it isn’t, mistakes are not the end of the world unless they’re fatal – the entire point of mistakes is to learn from them. If you keep someone from making mistakes, you are keeping them from learning… you would be holding them back. You don’t want to do that, do you?

This doesn’t mean you should never give people advice or tell them what you think, though. By all means, do so. But don’t become “obsessed” with it, or nag them about it or keep bringing it up every other day. That will just make them even less likely to want to listen to you. If you really feel a need to get a point across to someone, the best way to do it is by example. Practice what you preach. Mention it every now and then if you must. But most importantly, give them a REASON to listen to you. And respect their decisions.

If you need a listener or a shoulder to lean on ; your's truly is here ever present. :')

Unconditional LOVE;

If unconditional love comes from deep inside you, it doesn’t really make sense to “try” to love people unconditionally, since it kind of goes against the entire point… you can’t force yourself to love anybody, just like you can’t force yourself to stop.


On the other hand, there’s also quite a lot of thought involved in getting rid of society’s definitions of love which get ingrained in pretty much everyone’s minds from early childhood already, as well as your own insecurities and any unmet needs you may have. This is where the “trying” part comes in.

So, it’s not really about trying to love unconditionally, it’s more about trying to solve your internal issues so that you become more capable of unconditional love. Everyone has some issues, so you’ll never be perfect at it, but I think humans can actually get reasonably close.

Caring;

Think of the time you had a conversation with someone, and you had the impression that they really
weren't that interested in talking to you. Did you feel irritated? we need to remind ourselves that other people can also tell when we are not that interested in them.

To attract others we have to care about them. When we are vitally interested in someone, there is rarely a problem in keeping the conversation going. When we care, we forget about ourselves. We stop wondering," What am i gonna to say next?" There are no more of those long, uneasy silences during which you both look around the room, check your phone and agree again that the weather has been very nice. Caring means putting ourselves in the other person's shoes; setting aside our own experiences and saying, "You tell me your story."

If you don't want to make the effort, to care, it is probably preferable to leave. Find some company you really want, watch any series, read a book, rather than spend an evening or night goin through the motions with people you don't want to be with. If you are going to talk to people, why not give them your whole attention? But sometimes by doing that cold water is splashed right back to your face.

xo; ohL p/s ~like a butterfly; you can admire its grace and beauty within you palm. Grasp it to tight it will die; grasp it to lightly it will fly away... sighs*

past random's that i wrote in facebook:)

Is LOVE selfish?

I think that love at the same time can be selfish and not selfish. Some might not like to give because they
are afraid that one day they'll be hurt so badly, they won't be able to get over it. Some don't know how to recieve and can only give. I believe that in love, there are no such thing as fairness because there will always be someone who gives more or recieves more, there isn't anywhere that a line could be placed to say, yes love is fair.

So what do you think people? xD